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Transcript

SPEAKERS

Kelda, Jess, Amy, Ryan, Justin, Katie, Joanna, Sarah Silverman, Sender 8, Kathy, Matt, Ariella, Speaker 1

Sarah Silverman  00:14

Hi everybody. It’s your old pal, Sarah. I read a quote by, I don’t know who, and if anybody does, please call in. That changed my life. It changed me on a molecular level. I think, I hope, now I’ve set it up way too much. This is it, and I don’t know who said it, and it’s so good, and it’s gonna make you feel good. It should. Now that I’ve set it up so much, I feel like I don’t know it’s not going to live up to it, but this is what it is you’ve grown into someone who would have protected you as a child, and that is the most powerful move you’ve made sit with that. Does that make you feel great? Because you know it’s true, you would have stood up for you as a kid. That’s the person you are now, and that’s amazing. You have to love that and be proud of that. And so start your day from being so proud of yourself right now, and it’s earned. So if anyone knows who said that, I tried googling it, and then it just a million memes of it just come up, but I read that quote when Todd Glass and I were in Indianapolis, we it was like 4pm and we both wanted eggs so bad, the only place we found in all of Indianapolis that had eggs at 4pm on a weekday was the gay bar downtown ollies, which I love to give A shout out right now. Downtown Ollie’s is a gay bar in Indianapolis that is open 24 hours and has breakfast 24 hours. And we got we came in, and it was just had their regulars. And the regulars, by the way, look like truckers, long beards, tough guys. We’re like, I’m sorry. We thought this was gay bar. They’re not. Oh, we’re gay, and had the best fucking eggs and had such great company. So anyway, I had just seen that quote, and I was so high on it that I read it to these, these guys and one trans woman, and it really, I think, really affected them as much as it affected me, maybe more it was. I just think it’s so important to spread this actual true information. If you feel like shit about yourself, you know this is true. And if it’s not, make it true, it’s great. Let’s take some calls.

 

Speaker 1  03:16

Hi, Sarah. This is Ariella, your neighborhood vocal coach, or as I’ve called myself for 19 years, vocal empowerment. Coach, that is not that I’m outside the sound that you hear. My cat is currently fascinated by Cat TV, okay, so, what is vocal fry? VO, and I’m just, I just did a little bit of it. What is vocal fry? Yeah, vocal fry is when two things happen, when the vocal cords are relaxed enough, and then we’re not also letting much breath support our voice, so we’re lacking breath, and we’re also relaxing, and then this sound comes, like, totally, right? And I think the reason people don’t like it, although we all do it often at the end of sentences or first thing in the morning, we all do it sometimes, but it can sound apathetic, it can sound lazy. It can sound like we don’t care.

 

Sarah Silverman  04:17

That’s what it is.

 

Ariella  04:18

And partially because we aren’t allowing much air through. And that’s not always the case. It’s just a pattern some people get into for singing and for speaking, and so definitely, if anyone’s concerned about it, reach out to a vocal coach. Study it. You can totally do less vocal fry. All right, thank you for everything you do. Sarah and all your listeners.

 

Sarah Silverman  04:43

Thank you, Ariella, I’ve never heard vocal fry in singing. Is that even possible? Because it’s so much about breath control, I might give you a call. I really I should take the time to be in a voice class, because I need. Better breath control, as Charles and Isabella here would tell you, I for some reason when we do ads, it didn’t happen today, but I’ll get an asthma attack, or I can’t, like breathe, and maybe it’s just because I’m like reading, talking and not thinking and not pausing, or, I don’t know, it’s so bizarre. It only happens when I’m doing ads. It doesn’t happen while I’m yakking in this part of the podcast. And it happened which really was scary. Early on the road of this tour, I had a couple asthma attacks on stage, and just kind of powered through them, because I didn’t want the audience to feel bad, but it was very hard to get air in and out. And I have an inhaler. I’ve been doing it right before I go on. But I don’t know what it is. It’s breath control, I think. And, you know, I always was a, you know, a natural singer with, I don’t want to brag, but perfect pitch, and now I’m having a harder time. I have a much smaller range. I’m not a professional singer, but I’m not, you know, I’m not taking class, a class. I’m not working on that. And I just did a show with at Largo, with Colin Hay, who you guys may remember from men at work and also his, you know, solo career, ever since, his voice is unbelievable. You know, there are some singers that, as they get older, their voice is better, very few, though. Colin Hay is one. Elvis Costello is one. I mean, he’s hitting notes. His voice is so rich. It’s gorgeous. I go, how do you still have that, that gorgeous voice? It’s like, better than ever. He’s like, oh, I take scene lessons. I take voice lessons. You know, they all do, like Barbra, Streisand, does I remember hearing, you know, it’s like she, you know? And, of course, she does. That’s her tool. That’s her whole thing. But you always go, well, they’re pros, and they’re they have a gift. No, they do have a gift, but they have to work at it, and it’s so much as, like, breath control and all that shit. And I should do it. I really need to, and probably don’t smoke as much weed, but that’s not an option, right? What else?

 

Matt  07:25

Hey, Sarah, it’s your friend Matt. I recently watched the movie The Machine with Bert Kreiser and Mark Hamill Kreischer. There’s a line in that movie that really hit home for me, and I bet it hits home for a lot of guys out there and some women too. Possibly that is vulnerability is scary and opening up is hard. That’s certainly been my experience in life.

 

Sarah Silverman  07:57

That’s the goal.

 

Matt  07:57

And I’ve also found that I get burned by people. I have a history of getting burned by people who I thought were friends.

 

Sarah Silverman  08:07

And feeling burned.

 

Matt  08:09

That makes it that much harder to open up to people. Now I certainly don’t want to close myself off completely, but how can I keep myself open at the same time, which is, again, is scary, let me know what you think.

 

Sarah Silverman  08:30

Well, it’s true, um, opening up and being vulnerable is brave. Why? Because you’re risking something. So if you’re shut down as soon as it’s not you know, you’re not embraced and applauded for it, then you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. You know, there’s something I’ve noticed sometimes with men in my experience, where they do something vulnerable and they don’t get the it’s okay, mommy will take care of it, or, yay, good for you, response that they wanted. And then the pendulum swings so hard the other way, I tried, I tried. And you, you know, like, it’s just like, it’s, I’m sorry, in my opinion, very childish. You know, I’ve gotten that before you oh, you fucking bitches, tell us to be vulnerable, and then when we are, you know, XYZ, you didn’t get you didn’t get the prize. You didn’t get a prize for it. But the prize is it, do not be vulnerable as a favor to your girlfriend that she must react to exactly how you imagine. You know, the point of expressing your emotions, the point of being vulnerable, and it is scary and in its very brave in. Embracing both the masculine and feminine parts of being a human being, all that stuff is not for others, it’s for you. You benefit from that other people in your life also will. But it’s a practice. It’s it’s for living a better, healthier, less riddled, less ragey life, because so many men and boys were raised when, when I was raised and, you know, and up until fairly recently, with such a toxic mess masculinity, this is not your fault, but it’s up to you to decide to change it. And we talked about this before, and Rory has talked about it is like that for so many men, they feel the only feeling they are allowed is rage. So anything they feel, shame, embarrassment, any vulnerable feeling, gets converted into rage immediately. And I promise you, that doesn’t make your life better, it doesn’t make you tough, it doesn’t make you strong, it’s it’s none of those things, and that even if you don’t get the response you want, being vulnerable helps you. It’s a practice. I know it’s not easy for men. You know, it isn’t because you’re dumb, it’s because you were raised from infancy to believe that you are not allowed to feel it’s very real, and I have so much empathy for it. And women. There are women raised this way too, and we were all raised to perpetuate that toxic masculinity, whatever you want to call it. So that’s my response. Don’t do it as a favor to someone else, or for the woman in your life, or whatever. Do it to live the best life you can while you’re on this rock in outer space, and good luck.

 

Ryan  12:04

Hi Sarah, it’s your old pal, Ryan from Colorado. First time caller, long time fan. I guess my question has to do with self worth. I’m a 35 year old gay man, and I came from a really small town, so that dented a lot of my confidence as a gay man. And then when I went into the dating world, I’ve kind of always struggled with my weight, and I have, you know, I don’t know if you can tell I kind of have a high voice, and I guess for a lot of gay men, that’s a turn off. And so I’ve just had issues a lot with getting dates and my I’ll always like talk to my therapist, and I’ll say to my friends, is it me? And I’ll always get back, no, you have a great personality. You just got to find the right person. But I literally had to delete some of my dating profiles because I was tired of guys messaging me, telling me that I was ugly, you know. So now I only do the apps where you have to match with them and it, I guess all that has just led to a lot of self worth issues. And so my question is, how do you pull self worth for yourself when it’s kind of been beaten out of you? And I, you know, I have a chosen family, and they’re very supportive, and that’s all very great, but I find myself like not wanting to put myself out there anymore because of this, and so I guess, how do I build myself back up? And when I put myself back out there, how do I not let them get to me until I find that right one? Thanks so much, love you.

 

Sarah Silverman  13:37

You know, first of all, you have a gorgeous voice. Anyone who thinks otherwise, can take it up with me, it’s gonna all have to come from within you confidence. This is something that you must work on. You know? It’s, it’s exactly what RuPaul says at the end of every drag race. If you don’t, if you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love anybody else? Well, it’s also really about being loved. You’re not gonna feel it or see it. If you don’t feel it or see it, you have to love yourself. You sound like a fantastic person. You have a chosen family so you there are people that you know that love you, that choose to love and adore you. You have to do that for yourself. You have to love yourself. You have to accept yourself if you weren’t you, if you could step outside of yourself and see yourself, you would be kinder to yourself. Maybe that’s an exercise to do. There’s probably something smarter to do. I’m pulling this out of my ass, but. And, you know, sometimes I’m totally lost and I don’t know what to do, and I go, well, what would I say if someone called in with my problem into my podcast, what would I tell them? And there’s something about making it objective, like taking yourself out of something where you can see a little clearer, you know, like, for instance, I give good advice, but you know, it doesn’t mean I’m not a mess in my life. This is a very common thing. The cobbler son has no shoes. Figure out how to love and accept yourself entirely. You certainly probably do that with your friends and the people that you love, you deserve the same. It’s really all about, and this is gonna be woo, woo, granola stuff. But it really is true, we have this inner child inside of us. We all have the little hurt versions of ourselves inside. That’s what gets triggered. That’s like, if it’s hysterical, it’s historical, you know, like, gee, maybe I’m reacting to something that feels similar to this feeling from my childhood. And it isn’t that I’m, you know, losing my shit because you ate one of my flaming, Hot Cheetos. You know, it’s, they say, if it’s hysterical, it’s historical. Figure out those historical triggers and accept that little kid that is you for everything he is. Love him to pieces. And when you get good at that, you’re gonna find love. You’re not ready yet, you don’t have your back enough. And it’s not about being conceited or being a dick or being, you know, full of yourself when you are okay with yourself and you accept yourself exactly as you are. And if, if you don’t, you know if there are things you want to change about your be the person you dream of being, be the parent you should have had for yourself. And once you’ve really mastered that, you’re not going to believe how much space you have for others, and that’s attractive. Boy, can’t you relate that confidence is so attractive and you can’t fake it. It has to be real. And what it comes from is realizing none of us are perfect. We’re all gorgeously flawed. And instead of falling to pieces because you fucked up or you’re flawed or this or that, accept yourself the way you accept any asshole on the street. It’s so hard for us with ourselves, but get good at it. Get great at it. You’re not gonna believe how much space you have for others and how all these things you seek are just going to happen. I feel like I’m selling miracle water right now, but I there’s a reason that these things will happen for you. You’ll be in a place where you’re ready for it. So good luck, and let me know how it goes. Mary, what else?

 

Justin  18:22

Hey, Sarah. This is Justin from Chicago, and I love you dearly, like you’re amazing. I just listened to a podcast on my drive home from work, and there was this guy who talks about like, reverse cowgirl on the toilet to pee.

 

Sarah Silverman  18:43

Oh, that’s a good way to put it.

 

Justin  18:44

I loved it. And I just wanted to chime in on that, because I do that all the time. But not only do I do that, I actually like shave my pubes that way, like I’ve always sat on the toilet and then, like reverse cowgirl, and look at the wall, and then I shave my pubes. Let him go onto the toilet, and then I flush them down the toilet.

 

Sarah Silverman  19:14

I hope you’re not looking at the wall. When you shave your pubes, you’re probably looking at.

 

Justin  19:17

That’s weird for anybody else, but this guy’s chiming in just cracked me up today, and I just wanted to share that and add to it. So I hope you all have a great day. I love you, Sarah.

 

Sarah Silverman  19:34

Oh, you did it. Justin, you called and chimed in. I think that’s brilliant that you know, like when I trim my pubes, which is not often, because I do enjoy a fairly full Bush, but, you know, I keep it manageable. I just like I’m awkwardly squatting over the tiny, tiny garbage can in our bathroom, and it’s not well handled. Yeah but sitting backwards on the toilet and doing his Jean I didn’t know. Can you flush hair? I guess, if it’s not that much hair, we just are shower clogged, and Rory snaked the drain, and I watched him do it, and he he pulled out an entire second head of my hair came out. It was crazy. I don’t feel hair coming out of me, you know, when I wash my hair, but it does, all right great. Call, A plus aall what else?

 

Katie  20:36

Hi, Sarah. This is Katie from Indianapolis. I do have a question my kids, who are now 17, 16, and 12, used to have an app, your app called Uncle Sarah.

 

Sarah Silverman  20:49

No way.

 

Katie  20:50

It used to make us laugh. It was very funny and but there’s a hoping you can solve for us. You used to you went through the alphabet, and, you know, had a different word associated with each letter, and there was one, and we can’t remember what letter it was for, if it was D for dig or P for poop, but it was go outside, dig a hole poop in it and cover it up or something like that, and it cracks us up. We still mention it today, but just wondering if you can solve that for us. What letter was that for? And can you please bring Uncle Sarah back? Thanks, can’t wait to see you in September, bye.

 

Sarah Silverman  21:39

I wish I think it was D I’m not sure there were a couple for each letter, and they were, like, as edgy as they could make it for toddlers and their parents, but I had this idea, I’m gonna make an app for babies and toddlers. And it was so good, I think, and I put my own money in it and it, I it was just a big money pit, and I made no money from it. You, you are one of very few people that I’ve heard from that are like, I loved your app. The only other person who said something to me about my app was I saw Claire Danes at the Emmys and she’s like, Oh my God, our son loves Uncle Sarah. And I was like, Oh my God. I was so happy. Here’s the thing. What I learned subsequently is you can’t make any money from apps if they’re if they aren’t constantly being upgraded and, like, you get more coins or something like that, and that. This was just, I shot a ton of stuff. It had all these different modes and games and things on it for kids, and there was no upgrade. And then I just didn’t pay to, like, upgrade it to the latest iOS or anything. So it was so good, though, if someone knew how to, like do it and they did it, I would love to put it out there again, because it was really good. Like there was the alphabet, and then I sang the alphabet, and then there was story time where I told a bunch of stories. But then also there was story time where you tell the story, like the kid tells a story, and I would just sit. It was just me sitting and listening. And what else we had, songs we had, you know, inter all this interactive stuff. It was it, what do you remember? It’s V, it was good.

 

Amy  23:38

Yeah, you did this, that thing where it’s, don’t, I’m gonna take a nap. Don’t wake me up, yeah? And you could wake you up on the app.

 

Sarah Silverman  23:45

Yeah? And then you could, like, shake it, and it would wake me up, and I’d go, who woke me up? Did you wake me up? I told you I’m taking a nap. My favorite part of pre done sleeping […] Who did that? It was a muppet or a Sesame Street character. I’m gonna take this moment to voice a beef, which is, it has been my lifelong dream to be on Sesame Street. I know Amy’s done everything she can to be like, Hey, Sarah, would love to be on Sesame Street. They don’t want me. And it kills me. Kills me because I am such a fan of Sesame Street. But you know what? You can’t always get what you want Silverman, I don’t make the decisions there, but I can’t get over that they don’t want me. It kills me.

 

Amy  24:43

I think that that isn’t 100% true.

 

Sarah Silverman  24:47

How could it not be true? I’ve been around for so many years, always wanting to do anything on it. They don’t want me on. . Come

 

Amy  24:59

Know you did do a great episode of Yoga Gabba.

 

Sarah Silverman  25:02

I did. They wanted me, and that felt good. Yeah, they, they asked for me, and they got me. I love great kids show. I love being a part of that. I was so I was raised by these shows, and so has a special place in my heart, but it is a good lesson that I cannot get everything I want in life, and this is this is life. All right, what else?

 

Jess  25:31

Hey, Sarah, it’s your best friend. Jess from Pennsylvania. I’m so excited to say that I’ll be going to your show in Philly next month. Really excited about it, especially because it’s the first time I’ve ever bought myself a front row seat to anything ever like I don’t fly business or anything like that. I am rarely a splurging person, and I splurged because I just have never gotten to see you live before. And I’m really excited about it. And secondly, I just wanted to call in and say, My absolute I love everything you do, but my favorite thing you’ve ever done has to be the bit you did about you yelling out to a Catholic to kids outside of Catholic school that hell is not real. It made me laugh so hard. And as someone who a little over 20 years, 20 years ago, was a missionary, and now is no longer now a godless person. I just I love and connect with and identify with your desire to reduce suffering and reduce harm and spread joy wherever you can. And so how I that inspired me anyway, to create a meme account on Instagram a little while back called Hell is fake news. And your clip of that is of that bit is on there, as well as lots of other funny bits, just to help people realize the actual good news that hell isn’t real. Thanks so much for everything you do.

 

Sarah Silverman  27:00

Well, I’m glad I had a positive influence on you, and thank you. And that sounds really interesting. And you know, if you’re if you’re a god person listening, and I was thinking about this because I did an ad for the Freedom From Religion organization, which I really like. I used to see ads for it. And Ron Reagan. Ronald Reagan’s son would do ads for it, and I always really liked him, and really liked how he talked about it, and but I just want to clarify that if you are a religious person, freedom from religion or me trying to tell promise kids, there isn’t hell, have religion, if it feeds you, if it gives you strength, if it may, if it is a positive impact on your life, great, but when it hurts others, I have a problem with it. When I see children terrified of hell. And you know, again, my friend in this joke, but it was a true story, where I go, there’s no hell. You know, I’m telling these kids leaving Catholic school, and they’re like, Huh? My friend was like, you can’t tell other people’s kids. There’s no hell. And that’s probably true. And you know, the joke is, oh, did I ruin hell for them? But I just going through childhood is already so terrifying that for adults to add the fear of burning for eternity is just so horrible to me. And I know it’s not my religion and I should stay out of it, but I just think it’s a horrible thing to do. It’s like Santa Claus is like soft core hell in that way, because you’re saying you’re telling the kids a lie to manipulate their behavior through fear, which is what hell is too. But they go, he’s watching, he’s watching and seeing if you’re now, some of it might be positive in that maybe you’re better behaved. Like, if I make decisions thinking like, would I be proud of myself if my therapist saw me, saw this decision, or someone might say Jesus, or someone might say, you know, I had a boyfriend and we got in a big fight over email. Did I ever tell the story? I was sending our back and forths to my sisters and I, when sending the last batch of our back and forths to my sisters, I included him by accident. And oh, my God, I had a heart attack. And then he wrote some, you know, nasty something. But you know what I said? I said, always talk to me assuming my sisters can hear that’s how I want you to talk to me. I want you to take a beat and think what I want her sisters to know. I said that to her. I think that’s an absolutely fine guideline. So in some ways I get it, but I believe that the fear of hell is not what makes someone a good person or a bad person. I’ve seen horrible people do horrible things, who believe in hell, and I’ve seen beautiful people live their lives beautifully who do not believe in hell. So, you know, I don’t know. I don’t know that that’s a good guideline. I think your soul and kindness and care and stuff is best taught, not through lies to scare people. This is my opinion. So what I do say when I talk about the Freedom From Religion Foundation or that hell isn’t real. I’m not trying to be anti your religion or be disrespectful, but when it affects people’s lives, it bothers me, especially children. But I love that you started that. And thank you, Jess from Pennsylvania, maybe, and I will see you in the front row in Philly. And I’m so happy when, when people who care about seeing a show buy front row tickets. Because, of course, traditionally, rich people buy front row tickets. And rich people don’t live by a clock. They don’t care if they end up going, oh, I don’t feel like going. Let’s not go. I’m too cozy or they are late because they don’t want to see the opening act. Fuck you if you are not in that front row seat by the time I get on stage, I pull people from the back row to sit there, and when you come you can sit somewhere else, and you can rant and rave that you spent money on this ticket. But there’s a time that the show starts and you get fucking show up for it. I sound like my mother. Oh, my God.

 

Joanna  32:09

Hey, Sarah, this is your friend, Joanna. I’m actually calling in about the whole guy sitting down to pee thing. So my ex was uncircumcised, and there’s a couple things with this. He’s not the first guy that I’ve been with that was uncircumcised, but he is the first guy I’ve ever been with that sat down to pee. And I did think it was a little weird at first, but then he just explained to me how it was easier because he didn’t have to pull his hood back. And, you know, paint and sure it went in the toilet, and if he didn’t pull his head back, you know, go everywhere, kind of like how girls pee and, oh, I see, you know, he also just, like sitting down, like he loves you. It’s really just doing scrolling. Anyways, the other thing was that they’re supposed to be self cleaning, but I just don’t know, because there was a few times where I had to mention to him that there was an odor that was pretty bad. And, you know, I know what penis smells like, but this was just so different. And after I mentioned it to him, he started cleaning up a little bit better, and it wasn’t a problem after that. So what are your thoughts on that? Did you have that experience? Thanks, Sarah, love you, bye.

 

Sarah Silverman  33:35

Look at you. If it’s mentionable, it’s manageable. Yeah. I mean, I just, you know, I mean, I think I only dated one guy with an uncircumcised penis, and it was perfectly clean, you know. Listen, if you’re heavy or you’ve got folds, or you’ve got extra skin and you’ve got, like, folds, you’ve got to wash in your folds, you know. And an uncircumcised penis is no different. Get a wash in that stuff, you know. I mean, as someone with a vagina, you there, you have to wash the ins and outs of that of many like folds and layers and things. It’s just soap and water. What I’m seeing Amy, I can only see her nails, but they’re like making an expression, like she has an opinion.

 

Amy  34:18

No, I’m just taking in the folds of your vagina being washed.

 

Sarah Silverman  34:23

Okay. Thank you. So there you go. What else?

 

Sender 8  34:27

Sarah, I randomly decided to re watch the movie Heartbreakers on Max. And to my surprise, both you and Zach Galifianakis are hearing it. And so it got me wondering if you have any good stories from the making of the movie that you can share with us, thanks.

 

Sarah Silverman  34:48

It was fun. Luckily, all my scenes were with Zach, so we had a blast together. I think we were in Florida. We were in Miami. Me maybe for a few weeks and but we only had a few days to shoot. So we had we caused a lot of trouble. We were in a really gross hotel because we weren’t famous, and it was like a motel. It was fine. I had not turned into a hotel slut at that point, so it was happy to take what they gave us, but, yeah, we had a lot of fun. One of the stars, who’s very, very nice, you know, we had heard was a Scientologist, and so we tried to bait him, which is totally shitty, but that is something that I was remembering, or you were in a scene in a bar, and I’d say stuff like, God, I just have, like, no direction in life, like, I just feel rudderless. Like trying to get him to be, like, you should come to my church. Like, so shitty, very cunty, and he didn’t bite. And he was also, by the way, lovely, very lovely. Everyone actually on that was awesome. Sigourney Weaver, so awesome. Jennifer Love Hewitt, just completely lovely. Jason Lee, Ray Liotta was great. I don’t think I ever really got to meet Gene Hackman. He was kind of like untouchable there. I didn’t have like, scenes with him. I think I was like in a maybe, like a wedding scene where he was No, I don’t know if I ever had any scenes with him, but I never got to talk to him or meet him, which makes me very sad, because I’m a big fan. Let’s see. We that. You know, weed wasn’t legal, and I didn’t have the nut to fly with it at that point. So we had to procure weed. And we did find an extra named curly that we absolutely used for weed, and then we convinced him to let us into his grandmother’s tiny little house. She wasn’t there. I don’t know where she was, but we used her oven and made I made pot brownies, which I really excelled at at that time of my life, and pretty much lived off of those for the shoot. Everyone was very nice. It was fun. I don’t have any David Merkin directed that. Of you recognize his name. You can probably picture it in big yellow bubble letters, because he’s one of the Simpson OGs Simpsons OGs. All right. There you go. I feel like I gave you a lot there, what else?

 

Kathy  37:41

Sarah? It’s your old pal, Kathy from Chicago, and I wanted to share with you and the listeners a pro tip if you are seeking a dopamine rush, the first thing you should do create a Spotify playlist for one of your best friends. Just start adding all of the songs from your childhood and college time. My best friend made a playlist. We’re traveling up to see our other best friend in St Paul, Minnesota, and if I tell you that listening to do what that thing, yeah, yeah. And all of our rap songs and all of the messy songs we listened to in the bar did not just kick my depression and knock me out of my funk. I can’t even tell you what this has done for me, so just wanted to put it out there. Love you so much. Sarah, thanks.

 

Sarah Silverman  38:33

Do not forget about music. Boy, it can lift you up. It can take you through so many feelings. It’s so true. I feel like people forget about music. I feel like they forget about baths. If you have a bathtub and you’re not using it, what are you even doing? And boy, I think people forget about listening to music, and it is. It feeds you so much. I have so many friendship mixes, so many made for me that I’ve made when my father was dying. And I can’t suggest this enough, I made a mix for him that was all the top hits from the summer he was 17, because I think that was his favorite summer, and I played it for him, and he knew every word to every song. It’s awesome. Music is magic. But I will say that I have a playlist I’ve made for myself when I’m depressed that I call wallow. I don’t do happy music when I’m depressed. I like to wallow when I’m depressed, I like to go through the Depression to the other side, and let’s see what’s on it. I haven’t updated it in a long time. So and then there’s a lot of old stuff on it, just because I like a lot of old stuff. Let’s look at my wallow playlist I made this. I listened to it a lot. Just 41 songs. Okay, let’s see old friends by Guy Clark, The Wrestler, Bruce Springsteen, The Story. Brandy Carlisle, Hallelujah, Brandi Carlile, a lot of mountain goats going to Georgia. Love, love, love, steal smoked fish. You were your memory. Those are all songs by the mountain goats. Little Ani DiFranco, come on, I’m only human. Some what is her song? Untouchable Face. Liz fair Table for one, I’ve got a couple mates of state songs. They’re not really sad songs on here, but I do like them. My only offer in the rearranger the Sundays, a band I really loved growing up. They’ve got some great ones, the sugar cubes, the streets, Dry Your Eyes. That’s a great one, a little Sunday in the Park with George. Never hurt anybody. Children in art. Move On Adele, obviously a singer named Maria McKee, who had a band called lone justice, just played the song wheels, when you’re feeling sad, fuck, I like to go into my sadness. That’s why sum up. Billy Joel, hey, I’m the only human not that song, though you have a song called the whole name, and that’s not what I meant. Billy Bragg, oh. Patty Griffin, nobody’s crying 10 million miles when it don’t come easy. Florida, more mountain goats, some Ultra Vox, a lot of Jenny Lewis, a lot of Rilo Kylie. Lou Reed, perfect day. I mean, just the best wallowing song, Joan Arma trading has got some love and affection. There’s great. There’s so much more than that. But anyway, there’s a little taste. And also I’m really into this singer, Bill Callahan, who, who was this band, Smog, but also does solo stuff. Oh my god. A river is not too much to love. I think it’s called, is the album, that whole album, I like to actually make love to that album, but it’s also a very good wallowing song. I like heartbreaking music, but this bill Callahan his voice, I’ll just play you like a tiny sliver of Bill Callahan, and maybe from one of his albums with smug. I mean, wallow much. I’ll do a ramp up. You’re listening to Smog. You’re at K, S, A, R, H, wonderful. Bill Callahan, take it away […] I could keep going. I’m not gonna do this to you. It’s just his music fucking just rips through me, and his lyrics are amazing, and his voice just like, can’t say enough. Oh, Mary Gaucher, for wallowing fuck. Mary gauche. Her last name looks like gothier. Just listen to I drink, start there, then go to Mercy now, then come back to me. All right. What else?

 

Kelda  43:53

Hi, Sarah. This is Kelda from New Hampshire.

 

Sarah Silverman  43:55

No way.

 

Kelda  43:58

Actually, I didn’t grow up in New Hampshire. I grew up in New Jersey, but my husband did. My husband grew up in Bedford, and actually, we live in Bedford now, and we’re raising our three kids here anyway. So one of our favorite things to do is to watch stand up comedy specials we like every weekend we watch at least one, usually, you know, the biggest one that’s just come out on Netflix or HBO. We’ve watched a ton of even more obscure comedies, comedians on like on YouTube, like their YouTube special stuff like that. And we’re kind of just drawing a blank now, like our pool is getting smaller and smaller of things to watch, and I was growing up, we used to watch the HBO comedy hours on Saturday nights and stuff. And for the life of me, I just can’t remember all the ones that I would watch. So I was wondering, what were some of your favorite comics? Comedy specials from the 80s and 90s that you watched, that you just loved, either influenced you or didn’t even have to influence you, just like made you laugh, and you know, always stuck with you. And things you would recommend for us to kind of fill in those Friday, Saturday nights, thank, bye.

 

 

Sarah Silverman  45:20

Well, if you went into my house on County Road in Bedford, New Hampshire, the house I grew up in, you could look on the ceiling of my little bedroom in the attic and see in pencil, I love Steve Martin with a heart around it, which apparently is actually still there, even with new owners, they painted the house, but they left that little patch on the ceiling. So obviously, Steve Martin, like the stuff I listened to growing up, is a lot of stuff my mom was into, and stuff that I fell in love with, like Albert Brooks and Woody Allen and blah […] See, I’m gonna give you so much hilarious stuff to watch on your Fridays and Saturdays. Let me think, oh, there’s a special slash kind of documentary hybrid that Tig Notaro did with a comic named John Doerr. They’re both so fucking funny. And the whole thing is like they’re on the road and they’re trying new material, and the new material is great, but the biggest laughs are just them in the car driving from gig to gig. And like, you know what comics do in the day when they’re hanging out at New in New Towns? I love it so much. And then I would just go online or wherever you see like clips of Conan and watch every Tig Notaro appearance on Conan. They are all amazing, and she went on to promote that with John Doerr, oh, I was just talking about this, where they went on Conan, and it’s the premise of the appearance was that Tig had never, she didn’t grow up with, like, children’s stories, and she had never heard the story of the three bears, and so John Doerr tells her the story of the three bears, and she has really good questions while he’s telling, like, you know, she’s like, little girls running, you know, walking through the woods. And she’s like, alone? Yeah. Well, how old is she?  He’s like, I don’t know, 10. Really? She’s just alone. Like, it’s just or, like, when she sits in the chair and it’s too big, and then Tig is like, what is a chair that? How do you know if a chair is too big? You know? Like, I don’t know. I’m not doing it justice, but it every appearance is so fucking funny you have to watch. I think you should leave with Tim Robinson on Netflix. 16 minute episodes. They are so fucking brilliant. I’m, I was late to the game of coming to it, it’s, it’s just awesome. And then once you’ve fallen in love with, I think you should leave with Tim Robinson, and you’re like, oh, I need more Tim Robinson. Go back to what’s Comedy Central stuff on, like, Paramount plus and find Detroiters. He did two seasons of this sitcom, I guess, really, that was on Comedy Central before he did. I think you should leave it really seems like something he would have done after. I remember Rory pointed that out. So true. It seems like the natural progression, but he had done it before. It’s called Detroiters. He stars in it with his real life best friend, Sam Richardson, who’s so brilliant. And it’s, I don’t watch a lot of comedy, just because, you know, it’s I like the murder stuff and dramas and thrillers. It’s so good. It’s just, I didn’t know it makes you happy. It made me happy to watch it. I would watch everything. Todd Glass. Look for specials. I think he has a couple specials on Netflix. One, I remember the name of thin pig, but he has a million specials. I think they’re on Netflix, or you can look it up. His name is Todd Glass. Very under the radar should be famous, brilliant comedian. He’s one of my favorites. Not enough people know about him. Start there and call back. Let me know what you think, dad, wherever you are in in the space time continuum. I really miss you, and it’s a time to tell you we are winding down. This is the part of the podcast when I say, send me your questions. Go to speakpipe.com/thesarahhsilverman podcast. That’s speakpipe.com/theSarahSilvermanpodcast. Subscribe, rate and review. Please, wherever you listen to your podcast, if you do that, that helps us stay on the air longer. And there’s more That’s right, there’s more of the Sarah silver. And podcast with Lemonada Premium subscribers get exclusive access to bonus questions, like the one about elephants in Rhode Island. Oh, that’s a good one. Subscribe now in Apple podcasts.

 

CREDITS  50:14

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