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Transcript

SPEAKERS

Teresa, Sender 3, Sender 1, Sarah, Sender 7, Heidi, Sarah Silverman, Sender 8, Rachel, Amy

Sarah Silverman  00:42

Hey, y’all, before we start the show, I wanted to let you know about another exciting guest we’re gonna have, Robbie Hoffman. You know, I love her. She’s coming on the pod in a bit. So if you have any questions for Robbie, or even a comment or amusing, you know, send it on in Speakpipe.com/theSarahSilvermanpodcast girl.

 

Sarah Silverman  01:17

Hey everyone, it’s your old pal, Sarah. I was thinking this the other day as I was taking my vitamins, or maybe I was taking my Zoloft, no matter, I apparently take pills differently than everyone else in the world, and I want to say that my way, I think, is the better way it is for me, at least, but I’d like to share you how I do it. I can’t believe people just put pills on their tongue and then drink water. I don’t want to taste the pill. I don’t want to know about the pill. I drink the liquid, the water, or whatever, the whatever I’m drinking, and I hold it in my mouth, and then I pop the pills in and swallow the water. Never even feel it. Why doesn’t everyone do this? Let me know I’m right, though, right?

 

Amy  02:10

Well, does the water ever like come out of your mouth?

 

Sarah Silverman  02:13

Well, no, I just like, I take it, I take a sip, but I don’t swallow it, and then I pop the pills in and I swallow it.

 

Amy  02:20

I don’t know. I just, I can’t imagine opening my mouth if it’s full of water.

 

Sarah Silverman  02:25

You well, you don’t have to fill your mouth with water. You just need enough for the pill. You just take the water and your head is tilted up. And with your head tilted up, you toss the pills in with the water or the whatever you’re drinking. Pom, wonderful. I don’t know,

 

Amy  02:41

Sarah, I’ve done that before, and sometimes I drink all the water, and then the pills get stuck on my throat, and then I think I’m doing it wrong. Sometimes I just take them dry though.

 

Sarah Silverman  02:53

Oh, my God, that’s so hardcore. It’s like, what like they do that? Men do that when they take pills. In movies a lot they just like, take it.

 

Amy  03:03

Doesn’t your pill have a casing, like a sugar casing that makes it not taste bad?

 

Sarah Silverman  03:07

I wouldn’t know. I’ve never had to taste it. Maybe that’s how my mom taught me, or something. I mean, I’m just finding out that not everybody blows their nose one side and then one side. I mean, how do you even get anything out? You have to plug one side and blow and then plug one side and blow, but you don’t have to, apparently. I am shocked that most people don’t do that either. I was, you know, you think the way you’re raised is how everyone does things, and then you get older, and it’s just not the case. I mean, my mother was raised to call her vagina, her pussy. I mean, there you go. Anyway. Look at that. We’re all different. Let’s take some calls.

 

Sender 1  04:09

Sarah, it’s me again. I apologize for my nasally voice. It’s allergy season out here in Boston. So my question is this, I recently went through a breakup last week, still fresh, trying to heal, and the sad part is, he was a great guy. We got along great. We love each other still. I decided that after a long time of sitting with this feeling that it just wasn’t the right time. Even though I loved him so much. It was just different variables. Like he was working out of state, he was gone for a couple of weeks to a month at a time, and that was hard. And there was stuff from his past, and, you know, he wasn’t from here, so there’s like, all the Trump immigration stuff. It was just a stressful time. And. I kind of knew in my gut that it wasn’t the right time, and what made it hard was He was amazing, and I saw a future with him, but it just wasn’t working in the now. And you know, as Eckhart Tolle says, Present Moment is all we have. So I decided to break things off. Here’s my question, typically, I go no contact with exes to heal from that emotional connection and sever that tether. However, we decided to stay friends, because there’s still love there, and I’m noticing it’s hard for me to, like, see his name pop up. And I don’t think I’m able to heal, but I don’t want to go no contact. So I feel like I’m in a rock and a hard place.

 

Sarah Silverman  05:37

What do I do? Uh, I think you tell him that. You tell him exactly the last two sentences you just said, it’s honest, it’s what’s true, and that’s that, you know, um, you love them. You really want this friendship to work out, but you realize you need some dedicated time apart, separate, and maybe he’ll be willing to put the friendship on pause for six months or a year, or whatever you need, so you can get to know yourself as your own individual person First, and then resume a better, more more substantial friendship. You are taking a risk that he’ll move on. You’re taking a risk that he’ll move on romantically, and you’ll realize, Oh, my God, he was the best thing I ever had. But you’re right. That’s not a reason to stay with him. If it’s not right, maybe it will be right down the road. Maybe it won’t be maybe he’ll have moved on and you won’t, maybe you’ll move on. You don’t know that’s the future. And like you said, The future is not now. The future never comes. As a matter of fact, I think, I think you said it. I think you the last couple sentences you said to me are exactly what you should say to him. It’s just the truth. All right. What else?

 

Teresa  07:01

Hey, Sarah. This is Teresa in Philly. I’ve been listening since the very beginning during the pandemic. And really love your show. Love your insights. I’ve re recorded this countless times. I didn’t realize how many mouth noises I make, but really trying to keep that to a minimum, so I can get through to my question for you, which is really centered around breaking out of my current career, which pays me really well, and I’ve worked on for a long time. I do enjoy what I do, but it doesn’t really feed me. I’ve always wanted to be a writer. I used to think I wanted to act, and maybe one day I’ll get back into that. I did it when I was younger. But my question is, what are your thoughts on someone who is not in the business at all breaking through with an amazing script, and getting it seen, getting it read, getting it developed. I have an amazing idea that I know is super original that nobody has done before, and I’ve been developing it, and I’m getting ready to write the treatment, and I’m just nervous, curious, how, what do you think?

 

Sarah Silverman  08:30

I don’t want to be discouraging. I want to be encouraging. But keep your job. You like it. You get paid well, you’re good at it. Do not leave your job for this. Writers write whether they’re hired to write or they’re not. If you’re a writer, you write. That’s what you do. People who have full time jobs that want to write write in their free time do that. You haven’t even written a treatment for this idea yet. You know, I’m not trying to upset you or worry you, but writing is way more than an original idea. It’s actually writing the idea anything can be made brilliant with great writing. But ideas, anyone can have a great idea if they don’t write, it’s just a great idea. This business is bleak as shit right now. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t create. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t write. Yeah, you can just write a treatment, but with no history of writing for film or television, I don’t know how far a treatment will get you. What you should do is write a treatment, and then from that treatment, write a very detailed outline, and then from that outline. Mean, write a script. That’s not how everyone does it. There’s not one way to do it, but with your limited experience in this industry, I think that’s the best way to do it. They’re not going to take a chance on someone who’s writing they haven’t seen. So, yeah, a treatment is just a treatment. If they have nothing to go by of your what your work is. It’s not about getting a job and then writing because you have a great idea. I don’t mean to belittle you at all or anything. I don’t want to upset you. I’m just telling you the truth.

 

Amy  10:42

I just had one small addition. I don’t know if this is additive, but I think it’s also, if your job isn’t fulfilling you creatively, you can think about other ways to fill up your cup creatively in your extracurricular time, like I think your job doesn’t need to fulfill you creatively, and maybe a different outlet would help.

 

Sarah Silverman  11:00

Exactly, do not leave your job for a great idea that could be a good script. Leave your job when you sell the script, and even then, you might want to keep your job. You know, it’s a very long process. You have to have a million irons on the fire. You know, I’m not trying to tell you don’t do it. I’m just saying, do it with your free time from your job. I’m not saying you’ll never make it or you no do it, but you have to do it because it feeds you. You love it. It’s your creative outlet. And if something comes to fruition from it, great. If it bears fruit, great, but either way, you are fulfilling that thing that you love so much, writing, right? A writer writes, I can’t tell you how many writers I’ve met that don’t write. They just have a treatment, and they go from meeting to meeting to meeting. And what’s gonna happen if they pick up this show? You’re gonna write a script every week. Be writing. You should write 10 scripts. And, I mean, yeah, sorry. I’m not upset with you or anything. I really hope that this is helpful to you, but it’s really, I think people just really think of writing very differently, and if you write, then you know you should be writing. Write, a writer writes. Can’t say it enough.

 

Amy  12:27

Sarah, I’ve always wondered, What is your what is your process for writing? Do you dictate things, or do you write things on the page?

 

Sarah Silverman  12:36

A lot of times, I’ll write a note in my notes app, and then I’ll flesh that out, and then maybe I’ll write it like in paragraph form, and then I’ll write out the beats, and then those beats are become fewer and farther between, because I just remember from that one word what the bit is, you know, but it’s like a long process. I can’t, like, be on stage reading, so I’ll have, like, way more built bullet points than what it will end up being once I’m used to the bit. But it’s, I’m a very slow honer. So it’s, I don’t know it’s, I don’t have, like, one system, but that’s pretty much my system, I guess.

 

Amy  13:16

When you started, when you first started out, would you ever like, plan out the full script. And like, what you would say.

 

Sarah Silverman  13:25

No, not a word for word script, though, but it does ultimately get very word for word in my when it gets embedded in my brain, I’ll change things here and there and like, the tweaks might be so tiny you don’t even understand what that changes, but it’s sometimes the tiniest tweak can change everything. A breath editing. If I’m saying too much, if I’m not saying enough, it’s all just like you have to you really need the audience to let you know. You know, it’s just a try and try again and fail and tweak process.

 

Amy  14:01

Thank you for indulging me.

 

Sarah Silverman  14:02

Welcome.

 

Sender 3  14:07

Hey, Sarah, I’d love to know your views on tattoos. I can’t remember if you’ve shared if you have any or if you don’t have any, but I do remember on an old episode of this podcast, you and Amy Zvi, Hi, Amy, you were both talking about tattoos. And Amy said something like, when I see someone with a thigh tattoo, I think, what’s that gonna look like when you’re 80? And it’s probably gonna look just like an 80 year old vi it’s, I don’t know this is coming from someone who I get a tattoo every year, just one per year, from a LGBTQ artist, or woman artist, or black, indigenous person of color artist. I love collaborating and gain my one tattoo per year.

 

Sarah Silverman  19:09

That’s so cool.

 

Sender 3  19:10

The second part of this quip. So what are your views tattoo? Not like you have to take a stance, but just would love to know your general thoughts, if, if it was like, what your views from childhood, if they changed? I don’t know views from family views to now. The second part of this question is, if you have to get a tattoo, like you have to or you’ll die, where would what would you get? Where would you get? It also Amy Zvi I’d love to hear your response to this too. Okay, love you both. Gotta go bye.

 

Sarah Silverman  19:39

I love tattoos, especially when they’re attached to some kind of meaning to that person. I always assume it has some meaning to the person. It’s funny. Also, I think when people treat their bodies as just like a canvas that they’re not precious about, I find interesting because it, in a way, it speaks to the impermanence of life. And just like, yeah, tattoo to not put so much pressure on it, being like, good, this is our body and, you know, whatever. But that said I have no tattoos because I’ve just not thought of anything. And I’ve really thought about it. Every once in a while, when I pass like a tattoo store, I’ll be like, what would I want if I had a tattoo? I could have anything. What would I want? I can’t think of anything I want. You know, Garry Shandling had a circle on the back of his neck. I think because of that means, like the impermanence the empty space. It’s something Buddhist, like the empty space of it, the impermanence of it, the something it had meaning to him, and it was simple. It was just a circle. And I thought that was cool. My I, most of the people in my family have tattoos. My My sister, Laura, is covered in gorgeous, really meaningful, very artistic tattoos that are I love. And my nieces all have tattoos. Now. My Rabbi sister just got one. I hope that’s okay to say, to match with her youngest.

 

Amy  21:08

All her kids are adults. Even Donald had one.

 

Sarah Silverman  21:12

Even shleppy had one. My dad, Laura convinced him to get a heart on his ass that says Janice on it for Janice’s 70th and thank God she loved it. And there’s a video somewhere on YouTube that my sister posted of him getting that tattoo, and it is the hardest ever. Ever laughed in my life. He is screaming in pain. My dad was a huge pain pussy at one point he gags from the pain, which I know I shouldn’t find funny, but it is so funny. And the best part is finally, when he and he’s screaming at the guy and like everyone’s cheering him on in this tattoo parlor, and he finally finishes, he goes, Okay, you’re all done, unless you want me to do shading. And my dad goes, okay, yeah, do the shading. And we’re like, Oh, really. But, um, I just haven’t thought of anything I want, bad enough. Like we were, I was with Rory in Honolulu, and walked by a tattoo parlor. I was like, let’s just get tattoos. And he’s like, what should we get? It go just like, point to something totally unoriginal on the wall. But we decided against it.

 

Amy  22:18

You guys should have each gotten a dolphin on the small of your back.

 

Sarah Silverman  22:21

Yeah, exactly.

 

Amy  22:22

I want to change my answer.

 

Sarah Silverman  22:24

What’s your answer?

 

Amy  22:25

No, well, I don’t I think, for me with tattoos, I always have thought about, like, what would I get? Or I like, like the abstract stuff, like stars and like lines and just like cool patterns, not like a symbol, per se, I like when people have like stars, like on their fingers, or like dogs. Yeah, I like that too, you know, like, I really like them on hands. I like them on feet. I’ve just always worried about how I would age with them. That’s really the answer, not in general. I just, I want to make sure that also, the older that I get, the less parts of my body I expose, so I feel like it’s similar to like my pedicure. I always have a pedicure, no matter what, usually, but I never wear open toed shoes, so I’m the only one who sees it also. Isabella has tattoos.

 

Sarah Silverman  23:20

What are your tattoos? Isabella, do you want to share?

 

Amy  23:25

Sure it was actually a very it was a very interesting thing for me, because I remember growing up, my dad once told me, If I ever got a tattoo, he would, quote, kick me out before I could blink an eye, which was such an insane threat to grow up with. But yeah, I actually I got both of my grandmothers on my bicep. I got a Stick and poke, because I wanted to have the matriarchy in a position of strength. And I love my grandmothers. And so I wrote him this, like, really long email when I got it, and explained, like, the thinking, because I was going on a family vacation to Miami, so I knew he was gonna see it, and he was so moved by my email that he wrote read it aloud to all the siblings. Oh, which is really funny, but I have that. And then I have a tattoo for clown, which is like a delicate finger picking up a flower, which is supposed to represent tenderness and vulnerability. But yeah, I think for me, I definitely have, like, worried about how it’s gonna look when I get older, and also it’s like, I just have no control over that in general. And I believe that if I want it now, and I’ve thought about it, it’s the right decision so.

 

Sarah Silverman  24:38

I agree, and I think it will be beautiful, because it comes from such a beautiful place. It has such beautiful meaning. And also you can remove tattoos now, I always I pitched to Rory. I was like, I could get an R and you could get an S that could just be, like, on our toe or something, but we just never did it. I always thought you could just in. Instead of tattooing your lover’s name, you just put you and then it’s, you know, it’s for them, but then it’s for also anyone else in the future. All right, what else?

 

Rachel  25:13

Hey, Sarah, this is Rachel calling from Port, Angeles, Washington. I unfortunately lost my dog last week, her name was Lucy, and she died very suddenly of pancreatic cancer that had spread through her whole body, and she was only six years old. She never showed any signs of being sick. There were no concerns. So this was really abrupt and just completely devastating. And I realized that I my whole life revolved around her. I did everything with her and because of her, and now that she’s gone, I realized that I don’t have that outlet anymore, and while I feel alone and vulnerable and lost. I also feel a new sense of freedom, because I don’t have to come home and take care of her, or I don’t get to, rather, and I’m just kind of struggling with feeling guilty about that and trying to move forward into all these exciting parts of life. I’m almost 30, and, you know, I need to build more relationships and travel more and all that. And I get to now, but I just, I’m having trouble with feeling guilty about it, and I miss her more than anything. So, yeah, I was just wondering your thoughts and any advice. Thanks, Sarah, love you.

 

Sarah Silverman  26:41

Oh, of course, you miss her, and I’m so sorry for your loss. And just know she’s not in pain. You’re in pain, and I always take comfort in that. But don’t feel guilty. Take advantage of this newfound freedom. Take advantage of it. Don’t feel guilty. Who is that guilt serving? Definitely not uou definitely not, Lucy, you loved her of course, you loved her. You don’t have to prove that to anybody. But run towards any joy that has opened up in her absence, even if it’s due to her absence, run towards it absolutely you think Lucy is watching over you, mad that you’re like out and not, you know, like home, where she would have been, when you would have fed her, when she would have been there. No, this guilt serves no one. You can feel it. You’re going to feel your feelings, but do not feel that you need to feel badly about this at all. It serves nothing but ruins your good time, and that’s a terrible shame. So there you go. Run towards joy. What else?

 

Heidi  28:04

Hi, Sarah. This is your other best friend, Heidi in San Francisco, and I was just having a conversation with a friend of mine when we were talking about who we would switch teams for. And you were on my list. I’ve never been with a woman, but if I were to be with a woman, you’d be the one, of course, I guess, pending your consent. Do you ever think of who you would switch teams for? Just curious. Love you so much. Love your podcast.

 

Sarah Silverman  28:41

Well, I’m very flattered that you would want me to finger you. I’m trying not to think of it as teams. I know that’s just always how it’s been referred to, but my guess is we are probably all like fluid but have conformed to teams because that’s how we’ve been raised for generations and generations and generations, but I don’t, no one really comes to mind. I don’t know. Patty Griffin, she’s not gay. Congresswoman Jasmine Crockett, who’s also, I don’t think, not gay, but she comes to mind. Yeah, yeah. I think this is a real revelation, that I think if I were to be with a woman, I would want a femme, a femme woman, as opposed to a masculine woman, which is surprising, because I think the reason I’m straight is, one, because I like masculine men who aren’t afraid of their emotions, or at least start working on it and two penises and three and four balls. Hey, the heart wants what it wants.

 

Sarah  29:49

Hi Sarah, it’s your pal, Sarah with an H, of course, because that’s the only way to do it. I am a Gen Xer. I’m 54 postmenopausal. I recently went through treatment for follicular lymphoma, which is a non Hodgkin’s lymphoma. I always had long, beautiful, dark brown hair. The treatment, I didn’t lose my hair, but it took a hit, and so I decided to cut it all off, which is fine, it’s just hair. But um, when I did cut my hair short, my mom said, Oh, thank God, you cut your hair. I don’t think women of your age should have long hair. It looks so much better. And you know, I want to grow back. I love my hair. She never said anything to me about it, but I was kind of surprised. So I’m wondering if you get that kind of feedback about your long hair, if people have tried to get you to cut it, or women of a certain age don’t think you should have your long hair. I love your look and that you’re always true to it. And I was just wondering if something like that has happened to you. I love you. I listen to your podcast during my treatment, and now that I’m better, I still listen to it, and I just think you’re wonderful. Thank you, Sarah.

 

Sarah Silverman  35:10

I love that you still listen to it. That’s a good ad. The Sarah Silverman podcast good, even without cancer. Yeah, I that’s crossed my mind about having long hair, but, like, first of all, mothers are the worst. Like, why would your mom say that? But I don’t know. And I go like, am I too old to have long hair? But then I’m like, that’s so stupid. Like, I find short hair so much more work than long hair. When I’ve had short hair or bangs or whatever, it’s so much work. Long hair is just like on my head. I wake up, I go blue, it’s in a bun. I go blue, it’s in a ponytail. I put it in a hat. I you know, it’s like it even my podcast hair, which for some reason, I have felt beholden to stay consistent with takes me, like, 90 seconds. So I like, I think the whole point of like, when you get older you have short hair is because, like, you don’t have time, or your life is busy or something. But to me, that doesn’t make sense, because it’s short hair is it’s so much harder I find for me also, like, I don’t care what I like to believe. I don’t care what other people think in this kind of regard. Like, I don’t know. I have my own style. I have my own way. I don’t know. At some point I will probably I’ve been dying gray in my hair since I was 25 because I’ve had I get gray, but it’s not like all my hair is gray, but I get gray so I cover it, but, um, eventually I’m gonna stop doing that, but it’s just a little and it’s easy to cover. It’s just hard when you have black hair or very, very dark brown hair, or whatever this is to, like, seamlessly go into, like, silver streaks or something, because it’s not like it’s blonde and it blends in or light brown. Good story, Sarah. To sum up, it seems like, as you get older, you want easier hair, and I find longer hair easy. So that’s just me. Personally, what other people think is not my business. I mean, I guess it literally is my business to get people to like me and consume me, but as a human and for my best shot at happiness, not my business. All right. What else?

 

Sender 7  37:41

Hey, Sarah, I work as a supervisor for intellectual disabilities a caseworker in Philadelphia, and I was talking with upper management recently, and I realized that majority of them are going to be retiring for the next five to 10 years. So in talking with them, I thought, how can I better be utilized, and what should I do to kind of set myself up for, you know, another position promotion, and they basically said that I should go get my masters in a field that I not only interest me, but also that I would excel at. And I’m scared. Haven’t been in school in 15 years, and I got another 30 years left for retirement, so I’m kind of, you know, kind of worried. I kind of, you know, going back, I kind of was looking for the advice of what I should do. I excel in leadership. I’m currently supervisor. I like working with people and talk with people and mentorship. And I’m also good at math. I have a bachelor’s in math and go with numbers and spreadsheets and all that. But also, I have a second degree in philosophy, so.

 

Sarah Silverman  38:48

Oh, that’s so cool.

 

Sender 7  38:49

I don’t know what to do. I need your help. Love you, Sarah.

 

Sarah Silverman  38:53

I mean, I love the way you’re thinking. First of all, hi, Toad. You know I adore you. And yesterday, I was at Italy, and a woman had a frog in the toad t shirt, and I thought of you anyway. I can’t tell you what to do, but the options that you’re presenting sound really smart. I mean, I think you should. I think you should keep your current job and go to school at night. I know that’s obviously easier said than done, or maybe you can scale back your hours so that you can go to school at night or go to school in the day. I know you’ve got a kid and so you know it all has to work logistically, but getting your masters is only going to open doors for you and also open doors in your mind. I love the combination of math and philosophy. Personally, I also, like, I was an algebra head, and I also love philosophy and ways of thinking and the weird ways that math can be used. But you were also talking about, like, at your job, first of all, you should. Would always be working with people, because you are a great people person. You’re lovely to be around. And people like you, I feel like Al franken’s character, anyway, you were initially talking about your work and moving up, and that the people who are in upper management or have jobs above you are going to be retiring soon, that’s really smart to be thinking about. You know, what can you get your Masters in that works for that job, but also works for the job of your stimulating your brain and your interests? There’s gotta be some kind of happy medium there of is it communications? Is it I don’t know. But look at your options and figure it out. You’re smart and if you can do it. I mean, there isn’t necessarily a time like crunch where you have to get it done by X, Y or Z. You can do it slow one once or one or two nights a week, for as long as it takes, and before you know it, you’ll get there. I remember, this is just an example from so long ago, when I was young, and Colin Quinn said to me, and it was about getting something done that just felt like, ugh, I’m too old to do that, or it’s too daunting, or whatever. I remember him saying, you know, when I was 20, I wanted to take karate, but I was like, why should I take karate? I’m 20. Like, people get good at karate because they’ve been doing it since they were little kids. And then I woke up one day and I was 30, and I realized that would have been a black belt by now, you know, and it’s so true. Do the stuff that interests you, especially if it’s additive to what you can be doing in this world for a job or otherwise. And I just don’t see a downside to broadening your education. You’re smart. You got this all right? What else?

 

Sender 8  42:10

Hi, Sarah, I’m calling from Denver, and I was wondering if you have any tips or advice for writing a wedding toast for a sibling. Obviously, a lot depends on who this person is and the relationship. So I was mostly just curious if you had general tips for writing something funny, a good mix of like roasting and maybe a little bit of sappiness, but mostly roasting. I’m going to be four weeks more or less postpartum when I give this toast, and so I want to avoid anything potentially tear jerky, because I will have a lot of emotions. So just looking for tips on on being funny with siblings and and also sort of standing out from the things that friends or parents might say, thanks so much for everything you do. Love you.

 

Sarah Silverman  43:01

First of all, don’t be afraid of having emotions in a wedding speech for your sister. I think that would be lovely. Emotions are beautiful. And maybe it would be funny if you like, start crying, if you just go, like, I wouldn’t normally be crying right now. I just have postpartum I do you know like just to say something you know, always being vulnerable in a moment can be very disarming and funny, you know. But yeah, jokes are great. Make sure they’re said with love. You know her more than anyone, so you’ll know if she will love a joke or be hurt. You know, it’s her day. So if you’re on the fence about like a roasty joke, ask her, ask her, can you do that? Or if you want it to be a surprise, ask, you know, one of her friends or something, if you’re not sure, but yeah, you want to do great, but you want to do great for her. And obviously being funny is always good, but you know, right from your heart, be vulnerable, and those can easily be like, the funnier moments. You know, you don’t want it to be like, where the groom has this hilarious best man giving a toast, and then you give a toast and it’s not as funny. Oh, that’s just me being fucking competitive in a comic. Just talk from your heart. It will be great. Don’t get drunk, you’ll be great.

 

Sarah Silverman  44:22

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CREDITS  45:05

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